What do you do for a living?
Is that who you are?
Maybe there’s two bones left on the table that need to be picked clean today. I’m on it.
In my business networking I get asked two questions way more than all the others.
- How tall are you? (This is almost always the first question, usually with necked craned and mouth wide open).
- Really wow… What to do you?
For someone who is really clear about who they are and that who they are is not what they do, that second question is a head scratcher.
How do you answer it?
“Um, I do web shenanigans… you know, like marketing and stuff. I make the phone ring and the cash register sing!” That doesn’t communicate what I really do.
What I really mean is… “I use my talents and gifts to guide sincere people who want to achieve their own personal greatness to permanently change their lives by finding out who they really are at a level they never thought possibly and supplying them with the inspiration, tools and direction they need in order to become that person.”
In our society, we’re really slick as a weasel at associating what we do with who we are. It’s a chronic personal blasphemy that few people give a second thought to… and that needs to change. Read the whole story →
I ain’t skirrd
The dread Fear of Failure can strike at any age. And it does.
The rumor is that everyone has it. Can’t escape it. We’re all stuck because of its paralyzing effect. It’s an ever-present ogre hiding in the dark corners of your life waiting to dash your dreams to pieces should you even think about chasing them.
Eh, kinda. It’s no where near as powerful as you think it is, when you look at the guts of it. Shall we?
Try on a comment like this:
“So, yeah… uh, I was doing that thing we talked about and then all of a sudden this other thing happened. I never saw it coming. I was so sure we were going to win. I thought we had this locked up! This freaking sucks! I’m sorry, man. I’m sorry I failed you. This is so embarrassing. Probably would have been better if we hadn’t even tried it. We never would have won anyways.”
The source of fear in this example is easy to see if you know what you’re looking for.
What’s so damning about that comment? The answer has nothing to do with actual failure. You were not born with the fear of failure. Read the whole story →
I’ve completed the first decade of my adult life. Where has it gotten me?
A decade ago I was in the middle of my senior year of high school. Those were care free days… Ah geez. With thoughts like that I can’t help but feel unrelenting oldness creeping in on me.
I feel an analogy coming on… Read the whole story →
I’ve succumbed to the peer pressure and published this piece to Amazon Kindle. Turns out it makes people smile and spreading smiles is a worthy pursuit.
You can get it here.
Much love to you!